By Teresa Halverson
The holidays are a time for family gatherings, visiting those we haven’t seen in a while and looking to the future. As we enter into 2023, many of us may have had the opportunity to visit our family members who we haven’t seen in months or perhaps even a year. While our community is blessed to have such a growing retiree population, it is unfortunate that often these individuals are not able to be visited by family members on a regular basis due to location. Family visits are most important as they provide us a time to reconnect and share the joys of the holiday season. It also provides us with a valuable opportunity to check on our parent’s status.
If you had the opportunity to check in on your loved ones, did you notice any changes in their status? As we age, there are certain signs that our loved ones may need help but are either too proud to ask or actually do not realize they need some support. As we visit our loved ones, it is important to look for signs that indicate they possibly need help.
First of all, did you notice any health or hygiene concerns that were different from your last visit? Any unexplained bruises, weight loss or change in behaviors observed? Weight loss could possibly be related to an underlying illness. Do they display any concerns or needs with grocery shopping, or attending physician appointments?
How did the home look? While no-one expects a spotless home all the time, did you notice that their housekeeping and maintenance has slipped? Are things in disarray? Check the refrigerator for spoiled food. Are they dressed and performing their activities of daily living (bathing, etc.)?. Did you notice any signs of depression?
Memory lapses are normal as we age, but if you notice your parent’s forgetfulness is interfering with daily life and activities, it may be time to step in. Missed medication doses and doctor appointments, getting lost, failing to pay bills, and falling victim to a scam are all common warning signs. If you notice any of these, talk to your parent about getting a memory screening after the holidays.
Our area is blessed with great health care providers. Skilled nursing facilities, assisted living facilities, home health, companion support, and senior independent living facilities are available for help and support and referrals. It takes a great community to help make a difference in the lives of others, especially those who cared for us.
